Our little Shelbs turned 2 today!

If you would hang out w/Shelby on her 2nd birthday, you would learn that she:

drinks agua, “pop”, “leche de vaca” (milk from a cow), and hot tea
pretends to be a baby lion
sings all of “twinkle twinkle little star” (or rather “tinkle tinkle little star”) by herself
doesn’t like brown crocodiles, but likes purple ones
requests the stories of noah, jonah, and namaan, from the bible
looks forward to watching “Dora” every morning
eats yogurt and eggs for breakfast
enjoys food more if she has “dippy-dippy” (especially ketchup) to go with it
prefers her hair in her eyes rather than clipped up
searches for the moon in the sky at night and during the day
jokes around by putting “nunu” at the end of words (mama-nunu, papa-nunu, puppy-nunu)
asks to play with the “bright-lite” (lite-bright)
thinks blenders are too loud,
and
LOVES her mama!

Shelby, our family is indescribably blessed because you are a part of it. We thank God that He gave you to us. We love you–Happy Birthday!!

My dad is a high school vocal and instrumental music teacher. He always taught us that when singing or playing music, we should pay close attention to the “rests” (the silent pauses in-between the notes) because they are just as important as the notes themselves. If there were no rests, all the notes would end up running together in noisy, monotonous chaos, and the beauty and effect of the music would be lost.

Sometimes our Christmas seasons are like music without the rests. All notes and no pauses. No silence. There are so many errands to run, presents to buy, events to attend, that Christmas becomes more like a month of noisy chaos than a musical masterpiece that stirs the soul.

In reflecting on the first Christmas, it is clear that God used silence, “rests” so-to-speak, to help communicate the story of His Son’s arrival on our planet.

Before Jesus showed up in smooth skin and swaddling clothes (think 1st century onesies), there were 400 years of silence! For centuries, prophets had been proclaiming the message of God, and then there was just nothing. No prophets. No new writings. No podcasts. Nothing. Israel waited. It was almost like the calm before the storm. Something big was coming.

As the 400 years came to an end, a old priest named Zechariah received some news from an angel–news that his wife would become pregnant with John, the one who prepare the way for Jesus. But Zechariah didn’t believe the news, and God hit “mute” on his vocal cords till the baby was born. Think about it, nine months of no talking. You know what usually happens when you talk less? You listen more. Nine months of listening in preparation for the coming Messiah. Interesting.

When Joseph got hit with the scandalous news that his fiancé was pregnant, his life would’ve gone into a tailspin. His hopes and dreams shattered, his heart crushed. His waking hours would’ve been consumed with the whirlwind of thoughts, questions, and feelings surrounding this unanticipated situation. Which may be precisely why God waited till Joseph was asleep. In the still, quiet of the night, when all the gossipers were in bed, and the awkward conversations with family members were put on hold, God spoke. In a dream, God whispered peace, guidance, and purpose. And in the silence, Joseph heard. He woke up the next morning and for the first time, understood the meaning of Christmas.

Several months later in a remote corner of the Roman Empire, as the world slept, God showed up. God’s “Word” came to us, and the Word sounded strangely like a newborn baby. Have you ever taken care of an infant? When he/she is sleeping you probably use a baby-monitor, turn down your music, set the TV volume lower, do whatever you need to so that other noises don’t hinder you from hearing the baby. We pay attention and listen intently because the cry of a baby means something. Sometimes it means he is hungry, sometimes it means he is scared or mad or tired. A couple thousand years ago the cry of a certain baby meant that God had arrived. That was a cry to pay attention to.

That first Christmas, God used silence to speak to people and prepare them for His coming. Maybe God wants to use silence again, to remind us of His first coming, and prepare us for His return. Christmastime does not have to be a chaotic bunch of notes grating our ears. With silence, with “rests”, it can be a melody of peace, hope, and renewal. Let’s quiet the “background noise” in our lives so we are ready to hear God. Zechariah had heard God and was ready for Christmas. Joseph was ready. Are you ready?

Response ideas:

1. Three times a day, for the next week, sit with your palms up, to signify releasing (the worries and craziness of your life?) and receiving (the peace/message/love of God). Close your eyes, relax your muscles and take 10 slow deep breaths. Listen with your heart, mind, and ears for God. (You may be surprised at how foreign it is to just sit still and be quiet, especially during this season.)

2. Once this week, by yourself or with a spouse or friend, read the story of Jesus’ birth from the Bible (Luke 2, for example). Sit in silence for 60 seconds before you read and ask God to help you see the story, and Him, in a new way. After you’re done reading, sit in silence for another 60 seconds, reflecting on anything that God may have taught you from the story. If you are with someone else, talk about what you “heard” in the story. If you have children, re-tell the Christmas story to them, explaining that they need to listen closely, because afterward they are going to pick something they heard and liked (a thing, word, idea) in the story and make/represent that (animal, star, baby, love, whatever) using play-doh, markers, pudding-on-wax-paper like finger paint, etc. Take note of what your child makes. What significance does that hold in the story? Is there something about that that can teach you more about Christmas?

3. Turn off the TV for a day. For the rest of the week, when/if you watch TV, mute all commercials.

4. If you always have the radio going in the car (I do), wait 5 minutes before turning it on, proving to yourself you will not die if there is no background noise. You could even use your new-found silence to better observe your surroundings—Christmas decorations on houses, people, trees, leaves, mountains—or just try to be a better driver—haha.

We know this girl, Kristen, from Denver, who recently celebrated her 21st birthday. Her family threw her a huge surprise party. They secretly planned for months and months. They reserved a private room at a trendy sushi restaurant, decorated it, and invited 50 guests. They spent thousands of dollars to make this a special event. When the night arrived, Kristen just thought she was going out with some friends. She had no idea she was walking in to the most extravagant birthday party of her life.

Sadly, she was so overwhelmed that she had a difficult time enjoying the evening. Kristen is uncomfortable being the center of attention at large gatherings. And, she’s not even a huge fan of sushi. Later, she told us that she would have rather used the money spent on the party to pay for a couple long-distance friends to fly in and just hang out. Generally, she avoids big social events and instead prefers to just chill and spend quality time with a close friend. It was a shame that all this work, preparation, time, and money had been spent on something that the guest of honor really didn’t want. It was as if her family didn’t know her very well. They never asked her how she would want to celebrate her big day, and it seems, didn’t take the time to consider her personality and preferences.

Every December we throw a month-long birthday party. Supposedly it’s for someone else…supposedly Jesus. Yet, how many of us have paused to actually ask Jesus how He wants us to celebrate His birthday? (I’m not raising my hand.) Have we spent time considering who He is and what His preferences might be? How would He prefer our money to be spent? How would He choose to have us use our time and energy this month? In what ways could we celebrate so that it is obvious to the world that Jesus is the guest of honor?

Now, don’t get me wrong, Jesus loved a good party with good party food and drinks (remember, His first miracle in the Bible was making incredible wine at a wedding party). And God is the greatest gift-giver ever. So I’m not suggesting we throw out the presents, chocolate covered pretzels, and fun family traditions (I still cheered when I saw Santa at the end of the Macy’s Thanksgiving Day parade, and I still asked for a few more t-shirts for Christmas). I just wonder if Jesus showed up in person during the month of December would He recognize that we were ultimately doing all of “this” to celebrate Him? Do our actions and attitudes reveal that we really know Him?

We have the opportunity to refocus and re-align our holiday season with God and His desires. Let’s ask Jesus how he wants us to remember His birthday? Let’s take time to consider how we can creatively party in a way that reflects the guest of honor. Then let’s get to it…pass the chocolate pretzels and let the celebration begin!

Response ideas:

• Pray and ask Jesus to help you see how He wants YOU to celebrate His birthday (cause it will be different for everyone). Be looking and listening for His answer over the following days. Then act on what He communicates to you.

• Read stories about Jesus (from “Mark,” in the Bible, for instance) with your family, or talk with your family about familiar Jesus-stories, and write down things that seem important to Him. Then incorporate some of those things into how you celebrate. For example, off the top of my head I can think of Jesus helping the poor, widows & orphans, feeding people, spending time with people to get to know them better, visiting the sick (and healing them…but that may be a stretch for some of us–haha….maybe just visiting and praying for someone), letting children sit on His lap, building/making things (as a carpenter). This could be as elaborate as researching organizations that help the poor, and volunteering, or as simple as talking about the story of Jesus feeding the 5000 with bread and fish, and then have your kids give little boxes of goldfish crackers to their friends for Christmas. Or, you could have your kids draw a picture about Christmas and then give it to a neighbor so the neighbor can also remember Jesus this season.

• As you give a gift to a close friend or relative, think about your relationship with that person and the uniqueness of that person. Then creatively wrap/decorate the present in such a way that the one receiving it knows instantly it is for him/her, without having to read a nametag. (This can be done any number of ways. Think about using certain colors, pictures from magazines, little toys that represent something the person likes, candy/food tied to the gift, etc.)

• Eat cheap, simple dinners for a week (bean & cheese burritos, for example) and donate the money you saved to a global cause that helps those in need. Here are couple organizations doing really cool things:

A Way to Help — www.awaytohelp.org
International Princess Project -http://www.intlprincess.org/index.php/ipp/blog/P8/

Last year, in Costa Rica, we attempted to do a weekly family Advent celebration, to help bring a sense of intentionality and purpose to the 4 weeks leading up to Christmas. We only ended up being able to do that for 2 weeks, because we overestimated our ability, time, and energy available to plan an Advent celebration. We had big dreams for this year. We were going to do the full 4 weeks of Advent, but, here it is, almost a week-and-a-half into it, and we haven’t started. But we are starting tonight.

I have written a 3-segment Advent guide, to help us enter into the story of God becoming a baby and living with us. It will hopefully make us more aware of God’s presence with us, and will encourage us to actually invite Jesus into our often-misguided or distracted celebrations. We wish to have this awareness of God-with-us play out in our lives in such a way that blesses those around us.

I am posting the Advent guide below, in hopes that some of you might use it to help you focus on Christ this season. Each segment has a section to read, based on the themes of “Celebration,” “Silence,” and “Surprise.” Then I included some ideas of how we can practically and creatively respond, to remember these themes in the following days.

I wrote this with our family in mind, so some of the response ideas are family-oriented, but I am hoping many people–singles, couples, whoever—can use it and adapt it to their situation. Please do whatever you need to do to make it work for you. If you are a Dad of really small children, for example, you may want to read it with your wife (or put it in your own words, with your own examples) and then include the kids when you “respond,” explaining to them in a way they can understand, why you are doing what you are doing.

The response ideas are just that–ideas. You can choose some that I included, or think about your specific personality, resources, and situation, and come up with something different.

If you use this Advent guide, we would love to hear stories of what you did in response, and how that affected your celebration of Jesus this year. Please feel free to leave comments so that we can learn from you and be encouraged by your desire to celebrate differently this year!

Merry Christmas!

I LOVE this one!  I think the kids look just like themselves!  I can just see Jeremiah’s energy here.

What a cutie pie!!!  She truly is this sweet!

What a good lookin’ fam!

I love that you can kind of see Jackie’s little baby bump!  What a beauty you are Jackie!

Father and son together, doing guy stuff!

This might be my absolute favorite!  I love the interaction between PJ and Ava Jane, and Jackie’s and Jeremiah’s are too sweet!  (and the baby bump is visible!!)

does this kid love his dad, or what?!

more guy time!

such a wonderful family!

PJ & Jackie, I love that we are friends as well as family!  Thanks for giving me the opportunity to take a stab at your Christmas card pic!

Thanks friends for letting me practice on you!  I just love any opportunity i get to spend time with your beautiful family!